Just Listen...&...Talk Less
I know many of us at times have found ourselves in a situation with a friend where you would rather give them the what for than just to sit and listen. Truth is Our nature does not like to sit still and that old tongue just wants its way.
Here are a Few situations when it is better to Just listen and Talk less.
1) Many times when our friends call us with a problem they are not looking for a solution just someone to listen. JUST LISTEN...
2) If your friend asks you what you think DO NOT fall for it. They are merely asking you to judge their situation. Again DON'T DO IT...
3) When a friend stops by to see How you are doing, and you sense they are not themselves. Allow them the time to talk. You may be the only one they reach out too. Again Just Listen...
Here are a few things you can do to learn to listen more and speak less.
1) Remind yourself this is their Trial and the decisions made need to be their own.(many friendships have been lost because a friend gave the wrong advice. NO matter how helpful and sincere the friends intentions were the friendship was lost.)
2) Let them know that you will be their to listen to them whenever they need to talk. Many times a person just needs a sounding board. (You be the sounding board)
3) Finally keep it a secret and pray. You will find that for most situations. Time is the healer, What seems so Bad today, Tomorrow can only be a floating memory.
Reminder: Be the friend that you would like yours to be. We are all human and humans make mistakes. Do not be so quick to judge.
Closing: Many times the greatest friends we have are the ones who just listen to us the most. The truth is not even our best responses could be what they are needing. Allow them the time to talk and sort their own feelings out. This way the decision they come to will be their Own...and not Ours.
Becky Blevens
Soul's Harbour Headline Animator
Thursday, June 19, 2008
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This post reminds me of the butterfly coming out of the cocoon. A kind person saw a butterfly struggling to get out of its cocoon. Touched by the struggle of the little butterfly the kind person helped the butterfly out of the cocoon. What the person didn't know is that the struggle that the butterfly goes through getting out of the cocoon is exactly what it needs to be able to live. I wonder how many times I've "helped" people out of their cocoons depriving them of what it is that they actually need to live stronger lives. I'll try to just listen more!
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